7 steps to unlock your value and discover your self worth


Have you ever sat down and just thought to yourself what is your reasoning for being on this planet? Have you ever wondered what do you possess that is of value?

We live in a world where being famous has more value than an individuals self worth. If you’re not widely recognized by hundreds of thousands and millions of people then what are you doing with your life. It seems like everyday you turn on the television and tune into social media someone is trying to display a talent that they believe that they have. Everyone seem to try and strive for that recognition that will sky rocket them to fame and stardom.

What is self-worth

According to


the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect.

It’s sad that we live in a world where people are valued based on their appearance, social group and stature. All is valuable but it does not help you grow as a individual. People have to understand how to value themselves. It is important that you know who your are in these times that we are living in because it is easy to get caught up in how the world views you. Who the world says that you are. What the world tells you is of value.

I remember as a young boy that my mom and dad would tell me if you don’t stand for something than you will fall for anything. This is one of the values that I carry with me till this day. In essences what my parents were communicating to me that out here in the world there are ALot of examples. Both good and bad. I needed to stop trying to adapt some of every bodies personality, traits and character and develop my own. Be a individual. Learn who I am as a person. Love the traits that I have about my self. Develop into the man that I need to be.

See having self worth and values are a form of identity for a person. It helps you establish boundaries, set parameters and attain a level of order and structure to your life. You know who you are and what you stand for. Also the people that you come into contact with will know you as well. See we look at self worth and values as being blessed by the most high to have gifts and talents. But self worth and values can be something as small as your core beliefs. Mottos that you live by.

For example, let’s say that you and a friend are out. You two are just hanging out around town. Hitting up some restaurants, some stores. The usual. Now your friend at one if the restaurants that you two ate at. Says to you are you going to get a drink? You reply yeah probably a soda or a lemonade. They say no a drink with alcohol. Now let’s say that you come from a environment that you seen what drinking does to people. Consumption of alcohol destroyed your mom and dad’s marriage because your dad couldn’t restraint himself from the bottle. So you have purposed it in your heart to never drink and date someone who drinks as well. But your friend probably doesn’t know that part about your life. So you kindly tell your friend no thank you. I’m okay. I’ll get a water or something. Now they keep pressing for you to have a drink with them. They say come on but you’re my friend. How come you won’t have one. You’re cool and a lot of cool people drink. What’s the worst that could happen. You explain the situation that you endured as a young child to your friend. Your friend hears you and backs off and understands who you are when it comes to drinking and never pressures you in that area again.

Obviously from the example that particular person endured some hard times in their youth to which molded them and shapes their core values and self worth. They are able to understand that they don’t have to drink to have fun. Noe does it matter the number of cool people drinking. This one will not be participating. They realize about them self that drinking destroyed their dads dignity, self respect and integrity. This particular person is not willing to sacrifice all of that just for a adult beverage with their meal.

It’s good as a person to know your self worth and value. You realize your full potential as person and you give yourself the opportunity to cultivate it and maximize it to the best of your ability.

Here are a list of ways to unlock your value.

1) You have to love and value yourself as a person

Stop viewing yourself as someone who is a lost cause, not capable or incompetent. You are very capable. Where ever you went wrong in loving yourself you have to get that back. The most high has blessed you with tremendous gifts, talents and abilities. He has possessed you with his gifts. The most high don’t make no mistakes. He is not going to give that which he treasures to a incompetent person. He going to give his treasures to a person that he views as worthy. If he sees you worthy. Then you need to start seeing your self as that as well.

2) Be able to assert yourself and make decisions

Stop sitting back being timid. The only way for you to accomplish or do whatever it is that you desire to do. You have to go out and grab whats yours. Stop sitting back waiting for others to acknowledge you. Stop waiting for others give you a hand out. Get up and go after whats yours. Life is too short to hesitate. Go for it. Go get it now. You will never know unless you do.

3) Recognize your strengths

Stop sitting back just focusing on the negative all the time. There has to be more positive then good about yourself. If you keep focusing on your negatives, weakness and not strengths. How will you ever be able to learn how to turn your weakness into your strength. There is no such thing as a complete person. We all have weakness about ourselves. That is what just comes with being a human. But if you focus more on the strengths then you will become a more sound, fine tooled, developed individual. Where your weakness won’t have much of an affect overall. What I am trying to say is focus on what you can do and less of what you can’t do.

4) Put yourself out there. Try new things

You can’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Hey it’s life. It’s okay. You’re gonna get hurt sometimes. You’re going to stumble. You may even fall. People may laugh at you because you don’t have it all together just yet. But focus on the yet part. You have to try and good for it. Block out all of the fears and use that motivation and inspiration to propel you into your destiny where you have and you’re doing it.

Don’t let your fears stop you from what can better you.


5) Show yourself some compassion

Simply put don’t neglect yourself of love. Stop starving yourself of that kindness, love and compassion that you deserve. Life is hard and brutal. Mistakes happen. You’re not going to have it all together and you most definitely will not have all the answers. But hey, that is why we wake up everyday and move forward and do the best with what we got. Don’t forget that you’re human and you’re in a learning process. You are going through a maturation phase. Take it ease in yourself. Don’t stress, stay bless. Love yourself.

6) Take time to yourself

This is important. Everyday that we get free time use it. Take that time to be alone and understand who you are. ALot of times we don’t want to find out about ourselves. We use that alone that we should invest in ourselves and fill it with surrounding ourselves around other people. Journal your changes, your growth, your mindset. I encourage you to take time to rest and recover but know who you are in every step you take in life. Don’t Rob yourself of that knowledge and understanding.

7) Reorganize your life

You know how you clean your house. Move the furniture around. Clean and Reorganize the closest so you can have more space for new things. Do your life exactly like that. If you have negative people or involving yourself in negative activities. PULL YOURSELF AWAY FROM IT AND SET IT IN THE DISPOSABLE PILE. You are what you hang around. If you don’t have self worth or values about yourself then take a step back and analyze your choice of company that you are involved in. These things whether it being a person, place or thing can add to our life and subtract from our life. Beware what you let in because it can have a great influence over you.

Some other things that you can do but we’re not listed are

Adapt a winning mindset

Believe that you deserve happiness

Develop the mindset that you matter

Walk with confidence not cockiness

Believe that you are capable

I hope that this was helpful to you and blessed you.

So peace


What is your self-worth

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It’s amazing how we live in a world where there are so many avenues for change and growth. Yeah some positive and some negative. Only one is the truth and multiple are lies. Yet there are avenues. People want to make a change in their life but struggle in doing so. It makes me curious to know is making that change hard because people don’t know where to look? Or is it because people don’t know their value? Or maybe it’s both.

I’m curious to know what do you think?


Why so many people don’t heal


Hey, I used to wonder as a young boy why so many people including myself would treat people who have hurt me in a way better than I would treat those that would respect me and try helping me become better.

I liken this unto a person being male/female that would complain about the relationship that they were in being abusive, toxic, not being a ideal situation. Due to the fact that the person that he/she is a burden. Stating that they will leave them because they know their worth and value but when everything has subsided itself that person or persons complaining would return back to the very same situation that he/she was complaining about being toxic. –


Well, why is that??

People are taught that they can’t rise above their environment. People are raised in this society to believe that they are a product of their environment and their is nothing that they can do to change it. It is just fear that is planted deep in the subconscious minds of people.

For example, when I was in school I used to hear teachers say that if you are the product of a broken home. Being that your parents are divorce than the likely that you, yourself will have a failed marriage was something like 85% to 90% likely to happen.


For example if you are the product of a parent dealing with substance abuse you yourself will grow up and deal with substance abuse issues as well.

I say all of this to say that people not only lack knowledge but they lack the understanding and awareness to know that the conditions a environment is plagued with is the result of the actions of those living in it.

People are taught to fear, worry and the principles of it’s better not to know something than it is to know. Necessarily people need to be educated on what they are fearing and how to combat that fear with a strategy to overcome it.

It’s to my understanding that people go back to the same environment seeking quote on quote healing is due to the lack of feeling devalued. They don’t have any self worth, no value. When you teach people to fear their environment they become dependent on a thing that can not exist without a group of individuals making up that small of larger population.

The way I see it an environment is kin to a church building. A church is just a building with words on it advertising the name of a particular religion that the people adhere to. But how can the building be utilized for the reasons that it was created for? The people coming together fulfilling their obligations to those religious practices and idiologies that they adhere to. Then the building will become true in nature, but first the people must manifest true in their nature.

Time and time again people seek refuge in the same environment that they were originally hurt in is due to not just being taught their value and worth. But some of the blame had to be placed on that person as well. Unless you are a defenseless child. You can’t be held captive if you yourself don’t agree to the captivity.

What do I mean by that? A lot of times people go back to the same environment to heal is because they love it. They have become convinced that the very same environment that have hurt them loves them. They claim that it has been there for them when no one else has. It has nurtured them and raised them. They will always be and forever loyal.

Kind of reminds me of a gang boy standing his ass on the corner will fully and proudly to die for a block that didn’t raise him nor love him. But it has actually raised him, groomed him for his destruction.

All this shows me is that people hurt is so deep rooted that they have become numb to the idea that they are prostitute and the territory that they originate from is the pimp. Some people not going to like that I said that oh well. It’s the truth. If you understand the concept a pimp is a master over his prostitutes. They are his possession. His property. He has dominion over them. Many of our environments had the same influence over us as a pimp does over his. We get dispatched out to many parts of the world and just act out how we were raised and taught to be. Not really having a sense of awareness. Decernment that most of the none sense that we were subjected to can get us killed or landed in jail. Most of the stuff that we were taught in our environment is deception. It’s false. It needs for us to believe it so we can fulfill a purpose or a plan that it has for us. And the plan and purposes is just to pull us further and further away from the most high. This is just so we can’t use everything that the most high had equipped us with. To keep us in the dark. Our environment act as a handler of ours. And I say handler because that’s where most of us was programmed ever since a youth.

However we don’t need a environment filled with Babylonian luciferian liberal teachings to mold us. Where are the parents and the elders that will reach out and train up a child in the way that he shall go so that when he gets older he will not depart from it. That’s what we need. It’s a damn shame that we run back to these environments seeking healing and refuge when the most high let’s you know that he is your refuge. You can come to him for his yoke is easy. These toxic ass environments have replaced the order and authority that we are all desperately lacking in our life.

Stop running to a place seeking to be restored. If you got hurt there once whose to say that you won’t get hurt there again. There’s no good that will come from an environment that sole purpose is to not be apart of the solution but the fucking problem.

You’re better than that, you got the power to change and transcend all the hurt, pain, deception and foolishness. Get your ass up and get it done.

But anyway y’all stay blessed


Liking what you do

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What it do,

I remember about 2 years ago at a job that I was working in college. I was having a conversation with my supervisor. He was telling me how he and his friends rap and how they have a mixtape on iTunes at the time. I was very interested in listening to it. So he let me hear it. I was blown away I gave him his props. I let him know that his flow was good, but when you yourself don’t know how to rap anyone who can is better. He was talking to me about his life and particular thoughts that he had swirling around in his mind. So, I looked at him and said bro, that is something that you should put in your raps. I’m sure that alot of young guys that have faced a similar situation as yourself would love to hear someone that can relate. He looked at me and said naw, naw man. Put his head down and said nobody wants to hear that.

Without even thinking I said it doesn’t matter what anyone wants to hear, don’t you want to hear it? He put his head down and eyes began to sweep the floor as if what was said had a affect on him.

You know success is measured by money, fame and fortune. So much emphasis is placed on where you see yourself 5,10 years from now. Also what is your a, b, c, d, e, f, g plan and what are you currently invested in that will perpel you to succeed. As people we rarely take the time to step back and see that success is based on liking ourselves. Is there anything about you that is of value and is cherished that you have? It does not have to be big or spectacular. It can be small, but is it something you cherish and value about you. Do you like what you do? Being able to cultivate what you do naturally, effortlessly everyday and turn it into a ssuccess.Do you like how you do it? It should not matter to you if people like or dislike. What matters is do you like it.

Based on your life how do you view success?

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Never underestimate

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“Never underestimate the impact that you have on other people’s lives.”

If you have an encouraging word, inspirational word or a kind gesture to give to people it can go a long way. There’s alot of people living in this world. Everyday we come into contact with hundreds and hundreds of people. Not taking into account that they could be dealing with mental, emotional, or physical problems that maybe weighing them down. Whatever you believe of yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside. Do not believe that you don’t matter, you have no value or impact. It’s false you are a impactful person. What you say and do have a profound effect on other people. Do not underestimate what you have and do not be afraid to use it. Just remember where you would be if someone didn’t have a impact on your life? Positively speaking that is.

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