I rolled out of bed today took me a long shower and got ready for work. Before I left I woke my wife to tell her whether she has to go to work today or not. Whether she woke up on the wrong side of the bed or not. Today make the most with your time. Don’t waste your opportunities. Be able to say that today was a success. I’m going to share that very same thing with you. If you woke up anger, mad, sad, tierd, annoyed, unmotivated, uninspiried, etc. Cast those thoughts out of your head immediately. Don’t sit back and allow those thoughts to birth actions. You want today to be successful, well block all forms of foolishness. Place your mind on handling your business. If you or someone is acting or saying something foolish get up and walk away. Don’t allow your mind to wonder. Don’t allow yourself to forget the goal and objective for today. You want to use today to work on being better than you were on yesterday. Don’t make any excuses. You don’t have the time, energy or the effort to focus all of your attention on something that is foolish. It would take more from you than add to you. The time that you have everyday on this Earth is precious. See it as such and don’t play game with it. Every single day you and I should be building, planning and getting prepared for the wonderfulness that’s to come. See each day as special and treat it like it is your last. The time that you and I have is valuable and short, yet so much can be and will be accomplished. I don’t know about you but I woke up motivated, inspired and humbled for our opportunities. I know that we are not there yet. That’s why we can’t quit and have to constantly keep uplifting one another. However, we don’t have time to waste because our minds is on “building for what we want and preparing for what we’re going to have.” Allow yourself to say today “job complete” don’t go to sleep tonight unfulfilled, regretting how you utilized your time. Your time is precious so value it.
After today stop waking up starting your day expecting less. Expect more. Don’t expect more from others but expect more from yourself. The average person is dissatisfied with his/her life. Here is why,
1) Change your mindset
(Focus on what you want to see, instead of focusing on what you are use to seeing)
Your mind is under constant attack from the time you wake, till the time you sleep. Half of those mental attacks that you’re having are not external, it’s internal. Yes, internal. Your environment plays a significant role in moding the person that you are today. So how do you combat this? It is time for you to be the first. Stop allowing your environment to dictate your life’s outcome. Most of you come from backgrounds that is filled with doubt, unbelief, uncertainty, regret, lack of hope, etc….. These things that you have both heard and seen has filtrated your mind and life up until this point. However, you have more life to live. It is not over and you don’t have to accept less, but you’re deserving of more. It is time for you to cancel these reruns. Stop replaying the same old episodes in your mind. It is not doing you any good. Listen to this, the reason why bad, the unexpected and the usual stuff keeps manifesting in your life. Is due to you constantly thinking on it, calling it forth and expecting it. You have to give this negative mindset the “Freddy Krueger” treatment. If you don’t fear it or pay it any attention then your negative mindset won’t have any power over you. Now if you take that same mindset that you have for negative or what I like to call average and apply it to some positivity then you will begin to see a abundance of positivity manifest. If you want change to take place you must first tell yourself what good and positivity you expect to see and want to happen. I will end it with this “IF YOU CAN’T SEE IT BEFORE YOU SEE IT, THEN YOU WILL NEVER SEE IT.”
2) What’s your blueprint/ strategy
You just made a life change and this is fairly new to you. However, you need a blueprint/strategy so you can be effective in succeeding in this new life that you have. This is how you do it. Surround yourself around people who are where you want to be.
Can two walk together, except they be agreed?
Amos 3:3
Surround yourself around some like minded individuals where you can learn and absorb as much knowledge, information and understanding as you can. Being around these like minded individuals gives you the opportunity to be around people where you all will be operating off of the same wave frequency. Also, being around these people bring a level of accountability; being held to a higher standard. There is a level of accountability that will be placed on you to challenge yourself to grow and evolve everyday. Not going back to the same way that you were but pressing forward. This is good because the time that you used to spend being unproductive. Will be filled with task/objectives for you to accomplish everyday.
3) Invest in yourself
(Stop looking at others/what they got and have)
Stop spending so much money on making others rich and wealth. Take that money that you earned and go fund your own success. Don’t tell yourself that you can do it because you can. There is no excuse. You are spending way too much time being a spectator, being a fan watching others win and you could be out there winning as well. We are all bank accounts, stocks and bonds. You have to add value to it before it becomes profitable, “YOU GET OUT WHAT YOU PUT IN.” Investing in yourself does not cost hundreds or even thousands of dollars. All it cost is a made up mind. Are you ready to make your mind up??
4) Fear No More
Cut that computer, television off and put that cell phone down. Stop living vicariously through others people. Quit watching them win on every level and you sitting back marvelling at this. Tssss, you have the same drive, effort, focus and tenacity within you. You just have to access it. “You will never know unless you try, so why not start with yourself”- fisherofmen. Stop sitting back wishing upon a star. Go out and go get what you want. Whatever you want it is yours. Move past the fear because it is hindering you from your next level. There are steps that you have to take in life and you keep falling constantly remembering that pain allowing yourself to stay in the crawling stage because those hardwood floors hurt. Metaphorically speaking.
5) Walk with Assurity
Yo, you are walking down this new path. You don’t know what obstacles, road blocks, situations or conflicts lies ahead of you. But make no doubt about it you must keep the faith. Know that what you are seeking for, asking for and working toward will and shall happen. You will be receiving criticism, hatred, etc from North, south,east and west. But still walk in assurity. Look the enemy is just messing with you. His plan and purpose is to decide you. The enemy will even go as far as talking to you in your in your head with your own voice saying, “you don’t deserve this. You know it’s too good to be true. You don’t have what it takes, because if you did it wouldn’t take this long me to see any good happen.” The enemy is sowing seeds of doubt and unbelief. It’s a trick. He peeped your future a long time ago and seen how mighty you really are and will be. So it is his mission to stop you. He wants you to deviate from the plan and purpose of your life. He knows that you are trying, your are fairly new at this so you don’t know everything that is and is not supposed to happen. Still walk in assurity. Don’t allow all your hard work to go to waste. There is nothing more sweet than seeing what you have been working toward come to fruition.
6) Yahuah (God)
Lastly,
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Philippians 4:13
With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.
Matthew 19:26
Remember Your life is designed for a great purpose not mediocrity
So this morning I was watching ESPN’s Get Up and they showed a clip from a interview that a reporter asked Mr. Westbrook about the criticism that he has been receiving about his shooting and guard play in the NBA. His response at the 0:15 was “I have been blessed with the ability to not give a f-bomb.”
Yo, let’s be real about something. Sometimes a person’s is correct about you. Other times a person’s criticism just let it roll off your back like water off a ducks back. Sometimes you gotta ignore them. If a person’s criticism was of any relevance and importance they themselves would take their own advice and be off doing better. Apparently they didn’t do that. All a critic is, is a hater who is jealous of the fact that you are going after and accomplishing what you set out to do. While they are still sitting back wishing upon a star for their dreams to come true. Or they are mad at the fact that they could not become what they are critiquing you about. A critic ain’t nothing but a fan, a spectator that looks at you and envy you for having the mindset, the courage, the will, the tenacity, the fortituted, the strenght, the determination, the ability, the balls to take that leap of faith and apply works that’s needed in order for you to go after and obtain and maintain what yahuah (God) has for you. There are so many times in life where you are striving to be more, do more and have more in life. You will have critics critiquing your every move. You will need to develop a thick skin so you can stay focus on your goals, dreams and aspirations. Sometimes in life you got to not care what others think or feel about you. You can’t pay too much attention to that outside nose. You got to just run your race. Do what the horses do, put those blinders over your eyes and just focus and stay the course. Stop paying attention to what someone is saying or doing on the left or right side of you. Just look forward and keep on going.
So this is how you treat a critic. Who is a spectator that bought a front row ticket to watch this play called, “your amazing life.”
1) Don’t pay them any attention
That is all a critic wants. You see their life is so sad because it is filled with so many questions of “what if?” You see these people are hunted by their past and are mad because they are physically present at 2019 but can’t get over the early 2000s. These are times in their life that they wish that they had back so they can be at the place in their life that feel that they should presently be in. You, you my friend because they are around you so much and watching you and others like you sore higher and higher in life is a constant reminder to them that they could and should be doing more and better for themselves. They can’t handle it and be a man/women and take responsibility for their short comings in life and seek out help, knowledge, understanding. You know get that closure they need so they can move on and have a better and more productive life. So instead they use you and others who are doing good for themselves and they try to live through you, become relevant.
2) Don’t add fuel to the fire/ keep your composer
They are constantly targeting you, because they are seeking attention that they desperately need and want. Really it’s not about you, it’s more so you are collateral in their world, it’s them moreso who they are mad at and can’t get over. They are seeking a form of relevance. Still don’t pay them any attention. Their claim to fame is knowing that they ticked you off. They got you to break character and focus on someone that is not important. Keep your composer. Yes it will bother you that they are talking but it will bother you more knowing that you responded to someone that is not worth your time, energy or effort. You have more to lose in this.
3) This is chess not checkers
Allow them to say what they want. As for you “HEAR NO EVIL, SEE NO EVIL.” Take a second to step back and assess the situation. You have to realize that they are upset at you because you are at a place in your life that they wish they were at. At night when they close their eyes to sleep they dream of this only to wake in the morning realizing that this is not there reality. So they are hurt because they are still in the same place, stuck at the same job, living the same life for the past 5, 10, 20+ years. Now listen to me, this is not your fault, you did not cause this unto them. You are not the blame for this. However, apologize anyway and be the bigger man/women walk up to them look them dead in the eyes and talk to them. Get to know them, listen and hear their insecurities, faults and failures that they believe that they have. Next, extend your hand and offer some assistance. Offer some assistance, don’t ask them anything because they may feel like your offering them sympathy help. Say, “I can show you how to accomplish that so you can have what you want.” Be genuine about this don’t do this to be a a-hole really offer them some services, point then in the right direction.
Checkmate
4) Watch how fast their demeanor changes
Watch their facial expression, they’re going to look at you with both excitement and confusion. Meaning they don’t know what to make of this, they are stuck questioning. This is because they thought that someone like you, who they view in their eyes as having everything would never take the time out to bless them, to think about them and help them.
So this means they are blinded by their own negativity. They never would expect help. They would never see it coming. This is a perfect opportunity for you. To who much is given much is required. Take advantage and bless them whether they use it or not. Still bless them anyway.
Now sometimes this works and other times you just gotta walk the other way and “let it be what it’s gone be.” You never know that once enemy may turn into a friend. Sometimes in life people are hurt, mad, jealous, envious and bitter toward us is due to them feeling that they never had the opportunities that we have had that perpelled us into our level of success. But they are ignorant to the fact that you struggled just like them. You didn’t always have it perfect and easy just like them. You had to bust your butt just like them. They look at you through the eyes of lust, greed, covetness, not realizing that if they were to take that same energy and effort and mindset that they have toward feeling bitter, angry, regretful and hateful toward you a person who didn’t do anything to them, let alone you probably don’t even know them. If they were to turn that negative mindset into a positive one they too would be in a better place in life.
Drop the mic one time for the one time
Reminder a critic is nothing but a hater, just jealous and envious at the fact that they can’t be you and will never be able to do what you do. We call those people fans of yours.
Also you change your mentality, you will change your reality.
Definitely this is a question that I asked myself so many times while I too was in college. This does not make any sense. When we were in elementary and high school I don’t remember it costing nearly twenty plus thousand a semester just to earn a eight grade diploma and a high school diploma.
My wife and I were having a conversation last year about the cost of school. She told me that her co-worker had mentioned during their conversation that she believes in the next five years or so that children will not be going to college anymore. I told my wife that I agree with her co-worker.
1) I believe this because school is a business and like any other business they have laws, policies, rules, regulations and procedures in place to gaurd their assets; having the companies best interest in heart not the other way around. 2) The kids have so much talent and potential that their mindset is why go spend an additional 5 years in school slowing down my earning potential. Alot of this kids have gifts and talents that are showing at a young age and they’re looking at the situation as a waste of time getting a degree in fields of study that they have no interest in seeking out work. We live in a time where people are becoming successful through Twitter, Snapchat, Instagram and YouTube. They say that all they need to succeed is right at their fingers. 3) The kids are realizing that most of the conventional crap that is taught in schools are lies and there won’t be much use for it in the real world. So why spend time stressing to learning something that won’t be used? I mean let’s be honest here have you ever used thermodynamics, quantum physics, and philosophy to solve any problems in life? And to be honest I don’t blame the younger generation for feeling this way.
Schools should be teaching the children how to balance a check book, learning trades. Where are the entrepreneurships that existed back in the 70s, 80s and 90s? These things taught young men and women trades. Also schools should be teaching kids how to avoid debt, but they can’t do that if loans are attached to the financial aid that a child recieves. I used to hear in school from teachers that a student shouldn’t have debt. If a student graduates with 40,000 in debt and their first job annual income is 38,000 a year than they are doing something wrong.
What the, you gotta be kiddin me right. Are you serious. That don’t even sound right. How in the world can students avoid debt when the financial aid has loans (subsidized and unsusidized) attached to them. And here’s the thing. I’m going to tell you a secret, places like Sallie Mae, navient corporations, great lakes higher education and others loan places have already attached hundreds of dollars onto the loans that you or your parents have taken out whether parent plus loan or a student loan like a graduate loan. They are charging you already like if you missed payments or threw the loan into deferment. They like to lie and give you a paper stating that this is what your projected payback will be once you graduate that’s a lie you’re being charged now. So as you get higher in education so does your loans.
It’s sad because there is nothing wrong with getting a education and just simply bettering yourself. The problem is this,
1) students if you are using colleges to find yourself and leave parents or gaurd house because you are tierd of their rules. Stop now and don’t even use you and your parents/gaurdians social security number to get financial aid. All you are doing is dragging yourself and your parents down a long dark debt whole. You don’t have to select some expensive 4 year mega University to find yourself. You can go to a junior college where you won’t be in debt, spend thousands of dollars and a junior college will pay you to attend school. Just to figure something out that you can do for free.
2) college students stop changing your major if you don’t know what you want to study in college don’t go and declare b.a. or b.s. just do your general education because the financial aid place is keeping a close eye on you and how much money of theirs that you are using and are just switching majors. They will penalize you for this.
3) Since many are already in college swimming up to their eyeballs in debt do this. Stop getting your refund check from the financial aid office spending it on partying, liquor, spring vacations, the expensive college apartments, cars, expensive clothes. If some of you have a campus or off campus job don’t even use your checks to do the same.
Instead, Drum roll please.
Be wise and use that money to pay off a portion of your loans while currently in college. You can call the number of your loan provider and ask to be on a payment plan as little as $50-80 dollars and you can be paying pretty much the interest rate off your loans so that way you won’t have to later on in life be burden with paying $860 dollars or higher. It’s no fun in partying and having fun and being broke.
4) Don’t let anyone sholve down your throats “that you need to go to college and you need to be college material.” No you don’t. Why in the world would you go to a place that promises you that if you earn a degree when you graduate you will have a 6 figure salary paying job and get to do everything you always have dreamed of. That’s, that’s a lie from the pits of hell. Most colleges kids are still left searching for work in their field of study that they have majored in. They don’t tell you that most of the fields of studies in school don’t even exist in the job market anymore.
College is just like working a 9 to 5 job. IT’S NOT FOR EVERYONE. Some of you have gifts, talents, and abilities that are shining through. Go and build your own business. Be your own Brand. Cultivate what you know and have. Don’t subject yourself to this rat race called jobs and careers. Answer to noone.
I am guilty myself of this. I was once was caught up in this as well. I thought that gifts were singing, dancing, jumping and dunking adrinking a ball. I found out later in life that those are talents. That is not a gift. Some of my friends and myself used to think that the only way to be successful was through being a athlete or a rapper. My friends really didn’t come to terms with this and God bless them I hope that they make it. However, I always wondered was there more to life? The most high was pulling on me letting me know every step that he has placed more in me. That what I wanted was becoming a idol and blocking me from my true gifts. Anywho enough about me I just thought that this my be something of a eye opener for others out there search, questioning and wondering “Is there more to life.”
