I don’t celebrate mother’s day because of what it stands for. A women should be honored, a women is beautiful and should be respected, but don’t get it twisted a women is not God. A women should not be praised nor worshipped (mother’s day is mother’s goddess worship). However this particular blog is not about unraveling the mysteries and history of mother’s day. This particular blog I decided to do something cool. I decided to interview my mom. I wanted to get her perspective on what it means to be a mother. I was looking forward to capturing my mother’s wisdom that she has accumulated over 50 plus years into a blog. Maybe it could help and impact someone else life who come across my blog post. Also, I just wanted to have some fun with my mom and make a blog all about her.
After interviewing my mother I got much more than that. I learned something about my mom that I never knew. I am used to the Debbie Collins that would talk to me and my siblings. Be very fearless in nurturing her young so we can go out into the world a be somebody. As a young child I looked at both my dad and mom as super heros. They seemed so together, strong, confident, brave, self-motivated. But that’s through the eyes of a child. Hahaa, I didn’t know much of my parents upbringing other than what they told me. I didn’t see them cry, worry, feel defeat or insecurities. I seen them strong. So that is what’s etched in my mind.
Call it an unrealistic perspective of a person, but hey, it was my childish perspective of who raised me. Call it right or wrong. I don’t care. What I am trying to say is that my mom, man she’s a wise women. Very seasoned in her speaking and outlook on life. She prides herself in being intelligent and knowledgeable. When she talks to you she is very cerebral with her words. My mom wears integrity, dignity and self-respect on her sleeve like a badge of honor. These three characteristics speaks loudly and let’s others know that Debbie Collins has arrived. My mom don’t have to speak you can sense the way she carries herself. To me my mom lights up a room when she is present. From her cool, relaxed demeanor, to her laugh or the way she talks and brings intellect to a conversation. Yup, Debbie is present.
In me saying all of this I gave my mother the best present of them all which was therapy. I seen her earlier today and asked, how was the questions? My mom looked at me and said it was therapeutic. I was stunned. She let me know that she does not like to talk about herself. She does not feel that anybody wants to her about her.
Ohhhhh, mother. You have no idea. Thanks for being honest and truthful. Lots of people want to hear about you and from you. You just don’t know how meaningful you are to this world. But hey, I gave my mom a chance to see herself being written down on a piece of paper. Wow, she got the chance to express and learn a little bit about herself.
To be honest that was done on purpose, because you have been my mother for twenty-six years. You’re full time job has been rasing me and my siblings, but when do you have time for you? I’m good, I’m Kool. I am a grown man. I know that you’ll always be my mom. You’re there when I need you and when I don’t need any assistance. But there is a whole world out there that needs to know you and needs to feel that love and care from you too that you have blessed me and my siblings with. So I get it this was a start. I probably shocked you and caught you off gaurd. There will be a next time and I know that you will be ready. Without further ado Little Debbie Cakes.
1) What does being a mother mean to you?
It means being responsible for someone else’s life.
2) Do you think that motherhood played a essential role in you developing maturity?
No! There was already a level of maturity there inside of me due to the unfortunate of responsibility that was put upon me as a child.
3) If you could go back in time and talk to your younger self what advice would you give her?
You need to know who you are as a person. Understand how you think and why you feel the way you do both good and bad. Never let other people fill your head up with what they think and feel. Pay attention to the people you allow in your life. Never allow anyone to put you down because of who you are. Everybody lives in a glass house. Who should be the one to throw stones. No one has a heaven or hell to put you in.
4) Do you think that motherhood helped you realize your purpose. If so, in what ways?
No! I always had a since of direction and a plan and a purpose on how I should get there long before I even thought about being a mother. I had goals and dreams for myself always as a little girl growing up. I always had a way about me that was tailored to the “T.” So by the time I became a mother I was able to push my kids along in some of the things I saw in them or what they felt or wanted to do. Although it never happened for me.
5) What wisdom and knowledge would you give a young women that is scared, fearful, feeling unprepared to give birth to her child?
First of all, if it wasn’t meant for you to have this child it wouldn’t be in your wound. What you need is a support system in your life and your babies life to encourage you that you can do it. You have to have the right people surrounding you and your baby. There’s a plan and a purpose that God had for that baby rather it lives a short life or a long life. That’s entirely up to God.
6) That challenges did you face while being a mother?
To me that was money. Not having enough money. Another one was protection and stability. Those were important factors to me at that time.
7) Did you have any mentors present in helping you through the ups and downs of motherhood? If so, who were they and what advice/help did they give you?
No I didn’t have any mentors whatsoever. Sure I had different ones in my family here and there telling me what to do or what not to do. But the sad thing about it all was people were watching me and they were jealous ad if I had it better than them. Everything seemed so tailored and well put together. Everything I learned it came ad time went on. And trust me when I say it. It wasn’t easy.
8) When you wake up in the morning what is the first thing that is on your mind?
Getting up preparing for work. I’m also learning to truly make God a bigger factor in my life more so than anything else. I’m getting to a place where when I wake up in the morning with him on.my mind as the first thing in the morning it becomes a life style like my job is to me and not the other way around. God truly is my true source not my job.
9) If you could design a day for yourself. What would be your perfect day that you would design?
I would design for myself a place of paradise. A place of peace and complete happiness.
10) Who is you inspiration?
God! Just to be able to take one day at a time or go a step further even when I may feel like giving up is only inspired by God.
11) What inspires and motivates you to keep waking up everyday giving it your all?
God does! He’s my inspiration and my motivation to keep it moving. He puts a song in my heart. He puts a smile on my face. God encourages me every step of the way.
12) What is your ideal vacation destination?
Perhaps an island. A place of paradise. Clean air cleanness period. Fresh water, fresh food. Pleasant sounds, beautiful colors. Good times happy times.
13) Dead or alive who would you like to meet and what would you two conversate about?
No one any more because it really doesn’t matter. I now have my answer to my questions.
14) What is the best part about being a mother?
The best part is seeing the fruit s of your labor.
15) What is the best and what is the worst advice that someone gave you?
The best advice I was given was by my dad
“don’t believe everything someone tells you.”
The worst advice was when I was little kid growing up. Was,
“Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.”
That’s a lie! WORDS DO HURT!
16) Do you have a motto that you live life by?
Integrity, honesty and loyalty
Try to be cart how you talk to people and how you treat them.
What you sow, you will reap.
17) If you were not a homemaker what would your dream job be?
I always wanted to be in the healthcare profession. That’s a skin specialist. I like uniforms. I like dress codes
18) Favorite dessert?
My favorite is sweets period
19) Favorite Bible scripture and why?
Psalm 34 King James Version (KJV)
34 I will bless the Lord at all times: his praise shall continually be in my mouth.
Because it says just what I do and that is bless the Lord at all times.
20) In one word describe yourself?
21) Favorite song? (R & B, gospel, dusties)
I love music period except rap
22) What are your pet peeves?
Honesty and cleaness
23) Favorite cartoons growing up?
Bugs bunny and a cartoon called speed racer.
24) Favorite meal?
Pork chops and rice
25) Hot or cold?
Hot weather between 75° to 85° degrees and cold for killing germs.
26) Yes or no?
Yes! For reason that are good. No! Because there’s a limit. You can’t always have what you want.
27) Day or night?
Day! Another day is a new day you’ve never seen before.
28) Winter, spring, summer or fall?
Because I’m born and raised in Chicago. I enjoy all four seasons. They all present what is needed to the atmosphere.
29) Family cook out or intimate dinner?
I enjoy family cookout more. It brings out everyone in the family you love.
30) Chicken or fish?
Fish baked. It’s good for you and light on the digestive system.
31) Ribs or pork chops?
I perfer pork chops although Miss Piggy can be tough on your body.
32) If you had superpowers what would it be?
It would always be to fly whenever I felt like it. Fly as free as a bird.
33) Funniest joke or comment you ever heard.
The comment was,
It’s better to say there I go, then there I lay.
34) Best part about being a mother?
Being alive and able to see the fruit of your labor.
35) Favorite word?
36) What are two things you can’t live without?
Food and money
I’m going to say statements just fill in the blanks with whatever comes to mind
Nothing from nothing leaves nothing
If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything
Faith without works is dead
Be the best version of yourself
Today is a new day to get it right
I’m a God of another color
For every season there is purpose
Man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of god
I have never seen the righteous forsaken or his seed begging bread
When you get to the pearly Gates and you are await for God to execute his judgement upon you. What do you want to hear him say to you?
Well done my good and faithful servant in who I’m well pleased. There’s your mansion I told you was in my father’s house.
I believe that you will hear those exact words mom. When God created you he made no mistakes