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Having the ability to drown out criticism aka not give a……….


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So this morning I was watching ESPN’s Get Up and they showed a clip from a interview that a reporter asked Mr. Westbrook about the criticism that he has been receiving about his shooting and guard play in the NBA. His response at the 0:15 was “I have been blessed with the ability to not give a f-bomb.”

Yo, let’s be real about something. Sometimes a person’s is correct about you. Other times a person’s criticism just let it roll off your back like water off a ducks back. Sometimes you gotta ignore them. If a person’s criticism was of any relevance and importance they themselves would take their own advice and be off doing better. Apparently they didn’t do that. All a critic is, is a hater who is jealous of the fact that you are going after and accomplishing what you set out to do. While they are still sitting back wishing upon a star for their dreams to come true. Or they are mad at the fact that they could not become what they are critiquing you about. A critic ain’t nothing but a fan, a spectator that looks at you and envy you for having the mindset, the courage, the will, the tenacity, the fortituted, the strenght, the determination, the ability, the balls to take that leap of faith and apply works that’s needed in order for you to go after and obtain and maintain what yahuah (God) has for you. There are so many times in life where you are striving to be more, do more and have more in life. You will have critics critiquing your every move. You will need to develop a thick skin so you can stay focus on your goals, dreams and aspirations. Sometimes in life you got to not care what others think or feel about you. You can’t pay too much attention to that outside nose. You got to just run your race. Do what the horses do, put those blinders over your eyes and just focus and stay the course. Stop paying attention to what someone is saying or doing on the left or right side of you. Just look forward and keep on going.

So this is how you treat a critic. Who is a spectator that bought a front row ticket to watch this play called, “your amazing life.”

1) Don’t pay them any attention

That is all a critic wants. You see their life is so sad because it is filled with so many questions of “what if?” You see these people are hunted by their past and are mad because they are physically present at 2019 but can’t get over the early 2000s. These are times in their life that they wish that they had back so they can be at the place in their life that feel that they should presently be in. You, you my friend because they are around you so much and watching you and others like you sore higher and higher in life is a constant reminder to them that they could and should be doing more and better for themselves. They can’t handle it and be a man/women and take responsibility for their short comings in life and seek out help, knowledge, understanding. You know get that closure they need so they can move on and have a better and more productive life. So instead they use you and others who are doing good for themselves and they try to live through you, become relevant.

2) Don’t add fuel to the fire/ keep your composer

They are constantly targeting you, because they are seeking attention that they desperately need and want. Really it’s not about you, it’s more so you are collateral in their world, it’s them moreso who they are mad at and can’t get over. They are seeking a form of relevance. Still don’t pay them any attention. Their claim to fame is knowing that they ticked you off. They got you to break character and focus on someone that is not important. Keep your composer. Yes it will bother you that they are talking but it will bother you more knowing that you responded to someone that is not worth your time, energy or effort. You have more to lose in this.

3) This is chess not checkers

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Allow them to say what they want. As for you “HEAR NO EVIL, SEE NO EVIL.” Take a second to step back and assess the situation. You have to realize that they are upset at you because you are at a place in your life that they wish they were at. At night when they close their eyes to sleep they dream of this only to wake in the morning realizing that this is not there reality. So they are hurt because they are still in the same place, stuck at the same job, living the same life for the past 5, 10, 20+ years. Now listen to me, this is not your fault, you did not cause this unto them. You are not the blame for this. However, apologize anyway and be the bigger man/women walk up to them look them dead in the eyes and talk to them. Get to know them, listen and hear their insecurities, faults and failures that they believe that they have. Next, extend your hand and offer some assistance. Offer some assistance, don’t ask them anything because they may feel like your offering them sympathy help. Say, “I can show you how to accomplish that so you can have what you want.” Be genuine about this don’t do this to be a a-hole really offer them some services, point then in the right direction.

Checkmate

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4) Watch how fast their demeanor changes

Watch their facial expression, they’re going to look at you with both excitement and confusion. Meaning they don’t know what to make of this, they are stuck questioning. This is because they thought that someone like you, who they view in their eyes as having everything would never take the time out to bless them, to think about them and help them.

So this means they are blinded by their own negativity. They never would expect help. They would never see it coming. This is a perfect opportunity for you. To who much is given much is required. Take advantage and bless them whether they use it or not. Still bless them anyway.

Now sometimes this works and other times you just gotta walk the other way and “let it be what it’s gone be.” You never know that once enemy may turn into a friend. Sometimes in life people are hurt, mad, jealous, envious and bitter toward us is due to them feeling that they never had the opportunities that we have had that perpelled us into our level of success. But they are ignorant to the fact that you struggled just like them. You didn’t always have it perfect and easy just like them. You had to bust your butt just like them. They look at you through the eyes of lust, greed, covetness, not realizing that if they were to take that same energy and effort and mindset that they have toward feeling bitter, angry, regretful and hateful toward you a person who didn’t do anything to them, let alone you probably don’t even know them. If they were to turn that negative mindset into a positive one they too would be in a better place in life.

Drop the mic one time for the one time

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Reminder a critic is nothing but a hater, just jealous and envious at the fact that they can’t be you and will never be able to do what you do. We call those people fans of yours.

Also you change your mentality, you will change your reality.

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