A wise man once told me that “I was not afraid off failure, I was afraid to succeed.” Hearing my dad utter those words, definitely place something on my mind. At the time I did not understand what he meant by that, nor did I ask. Now at the age of twenty-six I understand clearly. Looking back I see that what he said had alot of truth to it. Knowing how my dad talks, I was not shocked by what he said, but how he said it. Normally you would hear someone say, “don’t be afraid of failure.” However, my dad is not normal, hahaa. When my dad was teaching me the fundamentals of life, I would always try to be prefect. I would always try to get everything right. I hated the idea and feelings of failure or just making a mistake. I can’t lie I also would try to be perfect because when your in the process of learning. You have someone teaching you and you don’t want to disappoint them. You don’t want to see frustration show on their face. You don’t want to see disappointment in their eyes. You know what I’m saying?
I believe it’s safe to say that when in a learning stage of life you may not comprehend nor trying to apply to your life the teachings that a person is teaching you. You spend more time pretending so you can get on that person good side. What’s really going thru the brain is why does this person hate me? Not really understanding that they are pushing you.
You know what’s funny about all of this is that often times in life we want people to help us, but we want to dictate how people help us. I look back on my life and realize that I spent more time fighting not to change then I did to change. I look around the world today and see the exact same thing taking place with other people. For example, when you are helping a three year old tie his/her shoes and they tell you ” no I can do it.” You look at them and say, “let me help you.” They say one more time “no I can do it” and snatch the shoes away from you. So you stand back and watch them put their shoes on and tie them. You notice that they have the shoes on the wrong foot and they look you in the face and say “see I did it.” Now you weren’t amazed that they can put their shoes on and tie them. You are more amazed that they are determined to reject help. I swear we act just like this as people. We reject someone help because we percieved that they are trying to help us with what we know. Naw, they are trying to help us with what we don’t know. The irony of the three year old shoe situation is to show that a person’s help can assist you in avoiding unnecessary mistakes.
Why afraid to succeed? Parent eagles stirs the eagle’s nest so the baby eagle can’t get comfortable on one particular side of the nest. This is done to encourage the eagle to not become dependent on the parent eagles. Oneday they will have to learn how to fly and survive on their own. So many of us want change, but we settle for comfortability. As people we love what makes us comfortable. We love things that make us feel warm and fuzzy. We love things that don’t oppose a challenge to us, but enable us to remain the same. We are not afraid of failure because we accept defeat all the time wether we acknowledge it or don’t acknowledge it. When you constantly fight against knowledge and understanding. You are a willing participant for failure. When you perfer to stay the same way you have always been and expect different results. You’re insane, but a willing participant for failure. When you fall and tell yourself “why should I get back up again. I’m just going to fall again. So I might as well get used to it.” You my friend are a willing participant for failure. Saying words like can’t, quit, and won’t are a person way for filling out an application for failure. So we can’t be afraid of failure when we spend more time fighting against the maturation process. It’s crazy because it’s inside of us to do more and become better. But we live a life that warrants us to do less and become less. But we contradict ourselves because we want more, not less. Well “for unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required.” It’s seems like we are running from the responsibilities of who we are as people instead of accepting what’s ours. It’s crazy because don’t you want to see everything that you are and will be? Is your life anything worth fighting for?
Stirring the eagle’s nest so the young can fly like the rest of the eagles. You see the eagles flies high and looks low. If the eagle was allowed to stay comfortable in it’s situation it would not survive. It would be another species prey. So the eagle is more than capable enough to understand that if I don’t push my young to fly how will they ever take on the true nature of what they were created to be.
Answer these questions
What is your true nature in which you are created to be?
Are you fighting against your maturation process?
Are you comfortable in a particular area of your life that warrants change?
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Remember change is good not bad.
Fisher Of Men